my friend Pema is an experienced English teacher, also a grandmother. Her son married a Chinese woman, had a little half-breed, boy.

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This applies to all living things. Take the parent-child relationship, we control the child's behavior, because our children life planning, because we treat our own unfinished dreams lies in their bodies. We even want the child firmly in control of our feelings, because we treat them as their own retirement savings, the rest of my life and expect them to earn our face, we must rely on their old age. Therefore, we will from time to time to take a small whip them: I? also stir me angry call me sad? you big sin you!

Pema

Pema courage to talk to his son, daughter, and relatives who lived together for some time, trying to reverse the over-grandson of care, over Chongni,cheap air jordan Men do not believe you do not aft, lack of freedom of the situation, suffered a heavy defeat .

Well, Pema reflection, acceptance, and grandson of a British passport holders of Chinese people.

Pema is a single mother,burberry scarf I love the experience , you know, brought their four children,timberland ladies boots, she heard her son say, tears.

control and dependence: two sides of a coin

in this pathological relationship,jordan basketball shoes, both loss of self, become each other parasites, each other, grab each other, is full of heart and tired of each other feelings of conflict, if there is a conflict, they threaten each other, but they are not equal communication. This relationship is not able to promote each other's spiritual growth, we can not give each other a healthy and positive psychological support, it is not love.

love is not a feeling but an act. Further, love is not forced, but an active choice, one out of any reliance on the freedom of choice.

but she is still angry and anxious. She said her son and daughter of her relatives have been Pema has been proposed for the son,ugg boots clearance, father-in-law to leave for some time, they couple their own children, his son was shocked to say, he is not with child!

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course, one that only violent fit of anger to vent their anger, Pema I want my book to, want to give the daughter to see.

a time to see her talk to me for a long time her grandson anxiety heart. This is the main carer of the baby daughter of parents, two very old people due diligence, leading to a breastfeeding mother can not persist, and many other Pema seems incredible parenting behavior.

Oh, this is really want to meet me recently released a fallacy: the control and dependency are two sides of a coin. Dependent on the more serious, more strictly controlled. Pema's relatives do not have a life,Cheap timberland, all the time is around the daughter and grandson, spiritual and economic (and pensions) and are dependent on her daughter and son, so they must control this young couple, so the couple mistakenly thought that the Earth is not to leave their turn.

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control is never a one-way, but each other, because the price is to be control dependent. When we are dependent on what time we will be it under control. It is about our lives and emotions, their concern for their toil, how many happy misery.

think and see, we most want to control are our most dependent.

meet again, I She stopped me and said, should be at least partly in accordance with our British way of raising brought him and I was wrong! daughter and her parents did not want the baby to do the British, but let him have a British passport, it will be fluent in English, in essence, or do purely Chinese, the Chinese parenting in accordance with the way I thought I was going to help them, to show them how British children, in fact, they are not interested,running trainers asics A terrible map !! I should not have to save the identity of those who appear.

highest level of control of this dependence is to be controlled by one party believes that they do not turn away from us on the play. In other words, let each other see it is that we rely on them, but let them feel that they rely on us. Pema's relatives so as to allow her son believes father-in-law is indispensable.