A guy goes to a girl's house for the first time and she shows him into the living room.She excuses herself to go to the kitchen to make a few drinks.As he's standing there alone, he notices a cute little vase on the mantel.He picks it up and as he's looking at it, she walks back in.He says, "What's this?""Oh, my father's ashes are in there," she replies.Turning beet red, he apologizes for bringing it up.She continues, "Yeah, he's too lazy to go to the kitchen to get an ashtray."