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"Thanks to Walt Disney's ""The Lion King"", children the world over know the Swahili expression ""Hakuna Matata"". It indicates ""No Problem"" and we grown-ups should use it more regularly.
I used to come home and my wife would say, ""We have a turmoil!"" I would immediately think that our daughter was in a clinic, the car broke down, or her mother was coming to stay with us. But it was typically just that the washing machine had been broken, or she couldn't get a babysitter for our film date.
It is easy to turn a disruption into a major tragedy. Don't do it! It lowers the energy of everyone involved and makes you want to run away. Instead, go ahead and take energy you are wasting in worrying and complaining in regards to the ""ifs"", ""buts"" and ""shoulds"" - and one on one it toward finding the solution.
Problem-solving requires awareness and becoming aware of the problem is often enough to unravel it. To sharpen your own awareness, take a look at the problem coming from three different perspectives:
1. Accept that the problem is really just a Simple fact, or set of facts.
Situation: Anyone parked in a no-parking zone as well as your car was just towed.
You might be furious about it, but the truth remains that the car was transported. If you detach yourself momentarily from your feelings, and look totally at the facts UGG Boots Seline Black, it will be easier to place things into perspective. Think of that someone else's car was towed. Would you feel the same over it? Probably not! You would probably feel, ""Well that's what happens when you recreation area in a tow-away zone.""
So UGG Boots Highkoo Black, act as in the event the problem belonged to your neighbor and not yourself...
Now, there are no more issues - only facts!
2. Be ready to see your problem as a Problem.
What's more fun: dealing with a problem, or perhaps facing a new challenge?
Situation: You have just had another fight with someone close. Fighting is not going to achieve anything.
You may treat the situation (or the individual) as a problem, or you can choose to notice as a challenge: ""How can I create a harmonious, understanding relationship with this person?"" Instead of looking in reverse into the past (""How many times We've tried, and still it doesn't work""), you look forward to the future (""Let's see how I can make a difference"").
The heaviness of the situation is fully gone, and excitement takes over...
Now UGG Boots Style Sand, there isn't any more problems - just challenges!
3. Recognize the problem as a possible OPPORTUNITY.
In reality, every obstacle is a chance to learn new things and grow: ""The obstacle will be the path.""
Situation: Your boss just presented you two weeks notice. You are shocked, angry, worried, feeling insecure.
You can see it as a problem (""What am I going to do now?"" ""Where am i going to earn money?"" ""I'm too old in order to change"") UGG Chrystie Boots, or you can see the possibilities on hand that were not there prior to: ""Now I finally can take the particular around-the-world tour I always dreamed about"", ""Now it is time to open my own business"", ""Here's my chance to find a better job"".
Contemplate many of the chances you've had in your life; probably numerous opened up when you were in danger...
Now, there are no more problems - only opportunities!
The key element within this problem-solving process is the conscious take action of taking personal responsibility.
Reshaping problems into facts, challenges and opportunities will allow you to take on that you are in charge of your ""problem"".
You can't play the ""blame game"" because the problem is no longer something that was forced about you from an outside source (other folks, circumstances, etc...)
You are no longer the powerless victim!
If it's affecting your life, you must have something to do with it; therefore you can do something over it.
Often, you don't even have to take action in the physical sense. Simply changing your point of view may be sufficient for your problem to disappear on its own.
The more detailed you are to an issue, a lot more it can be to be creative regarding it. So try taking a step back from your situation and invite others who are not close to it to be able to brainstorm solutions with you.
Ask oneself these questions: What are the specifics? What are the challenges? What possibilities are presented? How will a remedy make my life better than it turned out before? What is it that I ought to learn in order to deal with your situation differently?
Remember that NOTHING is Difficult.
When people tell me that a thing is impossible, I ask them, ""How are you able to do it anyway?""
That simple query has the power to transform lives.
Imagine what would have happened if men and women like the Wright Brothers, Martin Luther King, Nelson Mandela, T.F.K. and Gandhi utilised the word ""impossible""? Where would the human race be today?
We all usually look at some problems because impossible to solve or over and above our power. ""It's impossible approach my mother, she just won't listen!""
But if you contemplate instead, ""How can I talk to the woman's?"" then UGG Boots Classic Cardy Navy, suddenly, ideas come up (i.e. take the girl for a quiet lunch, include a third person in the discussion, write her a letter).
Changing a foreign language changes your outlook.
Really, many ""impossible"" things are just ""difficult"" and can be achieved with some effort and a brand new ""no problem"" attitude."
